
Good morning all! Today is one of those gloomy, stay in the house kind of day. I was sitting here listening to the rain falling and debating whether I should blog about what happened yesterday or not. I am still not sure myself what happened.
~Let me start back on Tuesday when I worked for the lady the last time. It was her hair appointment day. But not any hair appointment. It was color day. Now I have mentioned in the past that she doesnt see color like most people cause of her eyes. And she is always trying to get her hair blonde. Which one or the other things will happen, either it will give off a redish/golden tint that is beautiful or she will get a brown dingy color blonde. Now she dont like either of those, she wants just plain old cream blonde. They have tried numerous formulas on her and still get one or the other explained above. Well instead of doing an all over color she had her hair dresser do a highlight. She paid her and told her she loved it, but as soon as she got in the car she started talking bad about it. She does this all the time anyways.
~We left there and she wanted to get something to eat. We go to this one restuarant and no sooner do we sit down and my hubby calls me. He just needed to let me know what was going on. Well that made the lady mad. She hates it when he calls me to let me know anything or even if the school calls about my kids. So not only was she mad about her hair, now she is made cause my hubby called. (yes I know I probably should turn my phone off but you never know what is going to happen exspecially with the kids and all the family problems we have had over this last year)
~After this it was to do a little shopping and more of her talking about the hair dresser and how she hated her hair. She said she would not be able to go out in public all week cause of this. Now at this point in time I am biting my tongue. Which I do alot with her. Well we get to Wal-Mart and no sooner do I park the car and my phone rings again. Honestly the likelyhood of me getting more than one phone call in the short of time I spend with her is usually very slim. This time it was my sister-in-law calling about Thanksgiving day. Now I told her I was working, but she just kept talking. Now the lady is getting really angry at me. But I cant just be rude. So as soon as my sil comes up for air I politely tell her that I will call her back later that I could not talk right now. The damage was already done. The lady was being nasty. I just keep biting my tongue like a good girl. We did our shopping and had a little time to spare so made a run to the mall.
~Then it was off to the feet treatment. When we got there she had to wait a little while before they could hook her up to the machine. So lets recap... she is mad at the hair dresser and she was getting angry with me and now she has to wait for her appointment that we were on time to. Can you see where this is going?? When they finally hooked her up, I sat and crocheted and didnt say anything to anyone. Even when the nurse tried to start a conversation with me. The lady really hates it when someone starts talking to me. She gets really jealous. After her treatment they wanted her to do some different leg exercises and she declined stating that her back hurt. Little secret... she dont like doing any exercise and she always says her back hurts when she dont want to do something. But its her legs and she dont want to exercise then that is her right, but dont complain that you are having a hard time walking. She informed me when we were leaving that Sunday would be her last treatment for her feet. Which is good until they told her to go back to physical therapy. She said she wasnt going to do it. Yes my friends, I am still biting my tongue.
~She asked me if I had time yet to make another run to the mall. She wanted to look at a couple more things. I didnt have a problem with it. As I am turning in the mall parking lot she mentions that I must not want to cause I havent said a thing. Well at the time she was asking me all this and I was turning into the parking lot I was chewing on a piece of candy. Now it is disgusting to talk while chewing on any kind of food. When I swallowed I responded with I have a piece of candy in my mouth that I was chewing and I couldnt say anything at that time. You can tell she is just pissed off at me now.
~We go into the mall to her favorite store. Look around at a few things and she trys some stuff on. Now we all know that in any store the lighting is not the same as it is outside or even in our own home. She is looking in the mirrors at her hair and getting angry and disgusted cause it looks white to her. Now trust me when I say that there is color but maybe not enough, but it is what she told the hair dresser to do. As we are leaving the mall she made a comment about the hair dresser. "I dont think she knows what she is doing. How hard is it to make me a cream color blonde? I have several friends who have that color. She just must not know what she is doing!" Her exact words. By now I have had enough of everything. Of the way she is treating me this day and how she is putting everyone down and just the whole damn situation. I very nicely said that the hair dresser has made many suggestions on what to do to your hair to help you get it close to the color you are longing for but you are choosing not to listen to the suggestions. She is a professional and knows what she is doing if you would only listen. You have no one to blame but yourself cause you are being stubborn and wont listen. She responded in kind saying that she dont remember her making any suggestions. Then she starts complaining that she is having a hard time walking and I told her that if she would listen to the doctors and therapists and do the therapy she would be able to walk better. Now most of you know me and have talked to me. I said all of this with a smile and in a sweet tone. I would never raise my voice to her, exspecially needing the job! She made another comment to me after all this and said maybe it would be better if she just went out and sat in her car one nite with it running in the closed garage. I know what she was trying to do and no I did not feel sorry for her. I was not going to give her that kind of attention. I worried about it for the rest of the week and I told her daughter. But I was not doing the guilt thing at all. I dont feel sorry for her. She is actually doing better than most people who have suffered a stroke. If she would just do what the doctors say she would be doing even better.
~When we got back to her house I helped her put things away and asked her if she needed anything else. She said no and she paid me cause I wouldnt be working on Thursday. I told her I would see her next Tuesday at our normal time.
~When I got there yesterday morning, she said she was surprised to see me. I asked why and she started in saying that she didnt think I would be back after last week. For the life of me I still dont know what I said wrong from the week before. She told me that everything I said to her I said with hate in my eyes. She then told me that she guessed I could still work but I made her cry last week and to never do that again. Ok by now I am steaming mad cause I honestly dont think I said anything wrong to her. Now if you read this and you think I did please let me know. But I did tell her yesterday that she was not going to lay a guilt trip on me for anything that I said. That I only told her these things cause I would love for her to get better and not have some of the problems. And that she has been completely different since she has had her stroke and treating me pretty crappy. Then she said well never mind just take me to get my hair done. I said if I did that would be all I would do cause I couldnt stay the whole day or I would eventually say something that I would regret. I told her that if she dont like what people suggest to her and do what they suggest she could not get mad when things werent working out. She made a comment about my family always calling and butting in on her time. And that was the straw that broke my back. I told her that my family would always come first and maybe she should just call a cab. I left and called my hubby to let him know what happened. He told me when I got home that he didnt want me to go back over there if she called. He said it almost sounded like she didnt want me there. I told him she should have called and told me not to come. I have never once stood her up and not showed up. Makes me wonder what kind of person she thought I was.
~What is really sad in all of this, is a I truly cared for her and still do. I dont want anything bad to happen to her. I am going to miss her, but I guess this is for the best. But it couldnt have happened at a worse time. I still honestly believe that I did not say anything wrong. And to think about it, I have said this numerous times over the last two years, exspecially about her hair. Even typing it all out, I still dont understand! I know one thing for sure, I will not miss her treating me like she is better than me. She can be loving and sweet, but she thinks cause she has money that she is better and that is not true.
~Well if you think otherwise let me know please! Thank you!
~I am going to try and get somethings done around the house now. I am official done complaining! Maybe later I will talk about some actually crochet news!
~Til then Jelly Beans........................